Thursday, November 19, 2009

There's no place like home :)


We are so excited to announce that we are not going to move to Houston TX anytime soon! We got the offical okay from Jordan's boss today to remain in WI permanently. Of course that means some negatives, mainly lack of promotions for Jordan, but it also means TONS of positives!
Here is my top 11 positives for staying:
1. We'll be able to get Will ABA therapy for his PDD-NOS (if the paperwork clears!)
2. We have support from our family and friends
3. Will will be able to grow up knowing his extended family
4. We get to live in the town where we grew up and fell in love
5. I can still be in the West Bend Mom's Club ;)
6. We don't have to sell our house (which I LOVE)
7. We can get rid of all the boxes we have been saving for moving and finish our storage room :D
8. I can grow my Pampered Chef business (anyone want to host a show! There are a TON of host benefits :D )
9. Jordan can work from our home office full time...that's right: 24/7 Jordan is home! Unless, of course, he still has to go once a month...
10. We don't have the pressure to eventually sell the house for less than the low market value and lose money
11. I have a few part-time work leads in case we need extra money in the future

How exciting!
We think Jordan's boss would still like us to move down there when Will is "better" or school-aged, but we'll take it one year at a time. Well, at least the next four years are planned out!

We are so blessed Jordan works for such a wonderful company, especially during the economic hardships many people are having to go through. (Another business plug follows:) Please help keep the company in business by getting a Discover credit card! They have a ton of great perks and is more widely accepted now than in years past. The reason why a few vendors don't like to take Discover is because they charge a higher commission rate. That money is used towards things Jordan does to insure your card/personal info stays secure. They are industry leaders for security. Those other companies want to do the bare minimum without investing more of their profits! ;) Here's to Pulse/Discover! YEAH!!


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Monday, November 16, 2009

Cuteness!!

Will LOVES doing this. We can't fold sheets or table clothes while he is awake!

Our Birthdays!


November 2 was my birthday and November 3 was Jordan's. I turned 29 this year, and Jordan hit the big 3-0. It was a little bit depressing for him, but he was in good spirits. I, on the other hand, know it is right around the corner. The number 30 doesn't bother me, but knowing there are a few things on my "list of things to do before I am 30" that haven't been accomplished is a little bit sad. And I HIGHLY doubt they'll get done in the next year. Some missed milestones goals include: having all my children (which is possible I have accomplished that, but we are still holding out hope for one more), getting my master's degree (not remotely interested at this time), traveling to Europe (we are lucky to go to the Dells!), doubling my amount of patience (I think Heavenly Father keeps trying to get me to learn this principle, but it is not really sinking in), and being down to my wedding-day weight (working on it...doubtful it'll happen within a year, though!).
Happy Birthday to us! Here's to new goals: By the time I am 40...

Our happy family

Jordan's new football cleats. Not only are they very cushy, but they saved his ankle from being broken this week. The higher top on the new shoes gave him better support when he landed between someone's legs as he came down from catching a pass. He suffered a sever sprain playing football with some buddies. As a result, he is on crutches for three weeks or until he feels less tender and swollen. He is hoping for a VERY quick recovery as the Turkey Bowl is in a week and two days! My poor baby!
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My little Pumpkin...

Halloween 2009
Struting his pumpkin stuff...
LOVE those long lashes!
Will's cute wringled-nose smirk
My FAVORITE one! He looks sooo angelic!
We are so happy we got some good ones this year!
Trick or Treating! I made Will's bucket.
Playing with Grandpa Schaefer while warming up! It was VERY cold outside this year! Brrrr...
Trick or Treating at Grandma Schaefer's house!
Trick or Treating at Uncle Goo's (Danny) house to see Auntie Laura!Trick or Treating at Grandma and Grandpa Mazur's house!
Green mouth from Daddy's M&M bribes for good behavior!
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Monday, November 9, 2009

Will's Official Diagnosis...


Will has been offically diagnosed with PDD-NOS, a very mild form of Autism. At the end of the post, we talked about what we are going to do. If you are familiar with PDD-NOS, skip down to the brown writing. Otherwise, here is some good information about his condition from http://www.autismspeaks.org/navigating/pdd_nos.php:

PDD-NOS
What it is:
Pervasive Developmental Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified, or PDD-NOS, for short, is a condition on the spectrum that has those with it exhibiting some, but not all, of the symptoms associated with classic autism. That can include difficulty socializing with others, repetitive behaviors, and heightened sensitivities to certain stimuli.
How it's similar to classic autism:
Those with PDD-NOS behave like those with classic autism in many ways. First, they are all different (meaning one person with PDD-NOS doesn't act exactly like another; the same holds true for classic autism). When interacting with others, they may appear unemotional or unable to speak, they could have trouble holding eye contact, or they may have trouble transitioning quickly from one activity to the next.
How diagnosis differs:
Those with PDD-NOS are different from others on the spectrum in one specific way: While they may exhibit some symptoms of those conditions, they don't fit the bill closely enough to fully satisfy all criteria set by the experts. Perhaps they started having difficulties at a much later age than others on the spectrum. (According to the National Dissemination Center for Children with Disabilities, they are often diagnosed between the ages of 3 and 4 years old.) Or they may have the same challenges — for example, they may be oversensitive to their surroundings — but not to the extreme that others on the spectrum do. Consequently, those with PDD-NOS are sometimes thought to have a "milder" form of autism, though this may not be technically true. One symptom may be minor, while another may be worse.
What To Do About It
Treatments

According to the Yale Developmental Disabilities Clinic, treating children with PDD-NOS could prove tricky: Sometimes, they may not get the help they need as quickly as those whose behavioral patterns are more clearly definable as autistic. Healthcare providers may not provide a diagnosis of PDD-NOS until after they've considered all the other "types" of autism; in short, they may arrive at their conclusion after essentially a process of elimination.As with other conditions, it takes a village of doctors, psychologists, teachers, therapists, and family members to arrive at an action plan that would work best for someone with PDD-NOS. A "one-size-fits-all" approach usually doesn't work: A multi-pronged regimen may be the most advisable. These treatments could include:

  • Various behavioral regimens, including play therapy, Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA), sensory integration therapy, and more
  • Medications, including anti-depressants
  • Social skills training, which teaches children how to interact with their peers for specific situations
  • Alternative therapies such as martial arts therapy, wherein they flex their muscles literally and figuratively (they get stronger and learn how to function in a group setting); music therapy, which has kids learning how to communicate with the help of songs; or facilitated communication, in which children are taught to use computers or other equipment to make their thoughts known, especially if they have trouble expressing themselves verbally. (It supposedly is helpful to some children with PDD-NOS, says the National Dissemination Center for Children with Disabilities.)
How to Cope
Like other parents with children on the spectrum, you will face many challenges, starting with the incomprehension and insensitivity of others unfamiliar with your situation. They may think your child is "misbehaving" and, consequently, deem you a parent unable to "control" him. This may be especially true because PDD-NOS kids don't fit into the more easily identifiable forms of autism spectrum disorders. Ignorance can bring out the worst in others, and sometimes, when they're not privy to your child's issues (or simply don't understand them or won't accept the diagnosis, as happens in some families), they may be more judgmental. That's why it's important to surround yourselves with friends, family members, teachers and healthcare providers whom you trust. Be sure that the lines of communication with and among them are clear; you will be relying on them through the many ups and downs of life with a PDD-NOS child. If you're the primary caretaker (meaning you spend the most hours with your child), you'll need to make time for yourself, too. Caring for others can be draining, and you won't be able to give much if you don't replenish your own stores of energy and look after your physical, emotional and spiritual needs. Ask your child's healthcare providers for referrals to support groups so you can meet parents of other children on the spectrum; or go online — many parenting Web sites have bulletin boards for children with special needs, and Autism Speaks has online forums as well.Structure is helpful for children on the spectrum, so take this into consideration when deciding what events to attend or places to go. Preparation is key, so let your child know what to expect before the situation takes place or they reach their destinations. Consistency also helps, so check in with your healthcare team before starting or stopping a regimen. As children grow older and become more aware of the limitations that their condition has placed upon them, it may be helpful for them to receive counseling with a therapist trained in dealing with pervasive developmental disorders. As difficult as it is for parents to go through this journey, it's even harder for the children themselves who have to work through their own personal challenges and other people's ignorance as they make their way in the world.
How to Grow With It
Teens & Adults
Adolescence is hard enough for children who aren't on the spectrum, so you can imagine the challenges that teens (and even adults) with PDD-NOS face. They're equally hampered by hormonal fluctuations, but also have to take on the complicated (and sometimes cruel) social habits of their peers even though they don't have the full complement of skills to do so. Dating will be thorny — though some may ignore this rite of passage altogether — and friendships, so simple for young children, may prove to be more daunting. This is why your child may need more support at this stage than ever before, especially as they grow more aware of their own condition. A counselor trained with dealing with teens on the spectrum can help immensely, as will knowing that you're by their side every step of the way as they learn how to navigate a bigger and more complex world.
Long-Term Care
It's difficult to predict how easy — or hard — life will be in the long run for a person with PDD-NOS, as much depends on the severity of his or her symptoms and how he or she reacts to therapies. But if, like many others, the condition is on the "milder" side of the spectrum, your child will likely be able to care for himself or herself while growing older. Marriage and parenting may prove overwhelming for some, though not necessarily for all of those with PDD-NOS. The good news: It's possible to enjoy a full, if complicated, life.
What are we doing about it:
We are still going to continue with our Birth-3 program for speech therapy, OT, and educational therapy for Will until he is 3. He will then be covered in the school system for support. In addition to current therapy, he also qualifies for ABA therapy (mentioned above). WI is the only state that provides a waiver to cover the approx. $30,000/year fee. There is a 18 month waiting list, so the earliest Will will probably receive this intensive therapy (35-40 hours/week)is when he'll be 4 1/2 years old. Jordan is talking to his boss this week about staying in WI permanently to ensure we'll be able to help Will. Meanwhile, we can personally pay for the therapy for 15 hours or less a week until then (anything longer means we'll no longer be qualified for the waiver). The ABA therapy waiver covers 3 years of intensive therapy in our own home. After the 3 years, Will will hopefully be ready to attend regular ed classes.
Please continue to pray for our family and our sweet little boy. We appreciate and need all the love and support of our family and friends!
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